Kage is in her second-ever home day care. The first one that we used was eh--so, so. The second (our current), I thought I loved. She painted the perfect picture of exactly what we wanted for Kin. Home cooked meals, preschool curriculum, lots of parent communication, social skills with a small group setting with another little girl her age...and her hours were ideal. We were sold!
Three weeks into her full time schedule and things aren't as they once seemed to be. The "home-cooked meals" have become hot dogs several days a week. The preschool curriculum seems non-existent. The parent communication has dwindled down to a handful of texts a day saying: "K awake" or "K sleeping." I am rarely made aware of what she's eating and never told about her diaper changes or what she did all day. The small group setting has quickly grown to seven (7!) children in her care. Two of those are 4 months old. And her availability till 6 p.m. has turned into me getting text messages at 3:30 asking when I'll be there to get her. Hmmmm.
My mother's instinct jumped into hyperdrive last week. When I started getting texts telling me that Kage was falling asleep on the couch twenty minutes after we dropped her off. And she's been doing it daily. Our child NEVER falls asleep on the couch. Like, ever. Now, I understand that children do different things at day care than they do at home--I get that. But why is she just passing out on the couch? Is she bored? Is she left unsupervised? What is going on?
We pay a pretty hefty price for day care, or hefty to us....$200 a week. I expect a lot for that amount of money. I expect a lot for my little girl. She deserves the very, very best. Sadly, I'm not sure I feel confident that she's receiving that.
My husband thinks I'm overly picky--like, expecting the world and never going to find it in any childcare situation. And I am. But she's my baby! She deserves better! I have been told that she's advanced, or smart, and I want her to blossom. I want to nurture her mind! Now is the time for children to feed their minds and learn and explore! Not pass out on the couch in front of a TV.
So I'm torn. Do I just suck it up and be content that she's just at an overpriced babysitter? Or do I get angry and pull her out and search for something better?
I did go and tour a corporate day care center today. While I love that they have formal parent communication and monthly menus....I just felt that it was a puppy mill for babies. It wasn't very clean feeling and I just felt dirty when I left. Aaaand, it was $276 a week. Ouch.
What would you do? Would you trust your mommy instinct and believe that she's not in the right place? Should I just chill out?
|Enjoying a cookie treat after day care|
|Riding the horsey at the grocery|
|Shopping for a new toy....she wanted two! We told her to only|
choose one, so she decided on the Lucy look-alike. Way cute!