Thursday, September 1, 2011

The Bad Side of Blogging

It's true that the lack of blogging lately is due to my student teaching.  But it's also do to the bad side of blogging.

The putting yourself out there, in the open, left to be judged.

You spill your thoughts.  You tell your worries.  You share your story.

And then so easily, one comes along and just rips your heart out and stomps on it.

I knew going in to this whole blogging experience that I would have to "grow thicker skin" because let's face it...."anonymous" is not a nice person.  They say mean things.  They hurt your feelings.  They question your parenting style and make you wish you had never started "Living On Trees."

Lots of things make me second guess keeping this blog going. 

Why bother when I'm being portrayed as a bad mom or not doing things in the best interest of my daughter?  Why bother when I can't even be myself and have my own place..... you know?

And then, I realize WHY I am here.  I remember why Living On Trees does exist.

It's here because it's my place.  It is my ideas.  It is my story. 

There will always be an anonymous lurking in the shadow waiting to catch me on the already bad day when I over slept, kissed my crying baby girl good-bye, forgot my breakfast, realized I forgot my paperwork and missed an assignment.  Anonymous will always be there to kick me in the gut....

But I am strong enough to know that I am a GREAT mom.  I ALWAYS put my daughter and family first.  And I am a good person.  I have original ideas, I have original ways and I am one of a kind.  And, this is my way of sharing. 

Anonymous doesn't need to read if they don't like what I have to say.  There are ten million other blogs out there that you just may like. 

You won't get me down.
Move along.


Tom said...

Joy -

You are a good wife and a good mom. Whoever the hell anonymous is, well, let's just say if they can't release who they are, then don't even read the comments they make and just delete them. They are the ones that probably have nothing better to do in life than to pick on people and put them down.

I'm glad to hear things are going good with the student teaching, despite catching the cooties and all. LOL, Sorry, couldn't help laught about that one.

Hopefully one of these days we can get together.


Amanda said...

Joy, I don't know you personally, but from what you've shared I can tell you a great mom and you're honest about the fact that you're not perfect. People who hide behind "anonymous" are just weak and pathetic. I'm sorry you had a negative comment, but don't let that get you down!

Caffeinated OC Mommy said...

Ohhh Joy Darling... the fact that anonymous can't attach their name to their opinion just makes them seem a bit, well... childish. It is YOUR blog, it is YOUR story, it is YOUR right to remove their comment.

I've had my share of haters... my favorite thing to do is delete their comment and reply... "POOF... now you're gone!" It's sort of empowering... kind of like when I purchase a new lipstick... Cheers Darling! xoxo

Anonymous said...

I'm anonymous because I am at work. And I am not weak and pathetic. I just don't want to be logged in at work. And I don't get on the computer at home. But I don't judge you. I like ready about other people and their lives what what works and doesn't. I don't know you and I don't judge you. I simply enjoy reading blogs. And hopefully I learn something and if not I am entertained. Thank you for being you! And for me being me. Stac

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